[TW: harassment, threats, stalking, violence, slurs, racism]
So, someone decided to post this submission with a link to medievalpoc to a subreddit called “Tumblr In Action” this morning.
Let’s stop pretending we have no idea where this comes from:
And can we stop pretending as if these supposed “rules” actually mean anything, or are ever actually enforced:
Medievalpoc has received tens of thousands of hits from this particular subreddit from more than 60 separate threads, some of which have hundreds of derogatory comments, using slurs, threats, and racist ‘jokes’.
And it is somehow a “coincidence” that I have had to speak to police four times and make official reports due to threats, stalking, harassment, and other nastiness? That people have followed me around in person without my knowledge or consent because of this? People have circumvented the “ignore” function by creating accounts just to send racial slurs and threats.
The rest of this is going under a cut, because it is truly horrific. Please proceed with caution.
➸ "Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
- You do not respect their rights as an individual.
- You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
- You probably haven’t been listening to them.
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
Last year for Easter, we got these cool egg decorating kits, with markers, stickers, stencils etc.
I was trying to do an elaborate floral pattern on my eggs, but the stencil kept slipping. I got reeeeally distraught. More distraught than I had any right to be. But no matter how much I concentrated, I couldn’t get the stencil to stay in the right place.
I was having an eggs n’ stencil crisis.
So I’ve been pretty remiss in Otakon reports, but here’s a tale: after a full day of leaping around seeing awesome cosplayers and nostalgic Artist’s Alley fodder, therefore attaining a heightened state of emotional vulnerability, I saw this poster of Studio Ghibli characters in the style of Final Fantasy Tactics - the War of the Lions cover, to be specific.
It was so beautiful I actually cried for a moment. I mentioned the heightened state of emotional vulnerability, yeah? So Jackie bought it for me because she is awesome.
I will also point out that of course Porco Rosso is Thunder God Cid here.
This girl is insane, I think
> It gets stranger and stranger as it goes.
> Her neighbors must hate her.
what are you talking about this was the best thing ever.
This is so wonderfully odd i have to reblog it everytime.
This is so fucking impressive I don’t even know where to begin
since Tezzeret is 90% of the time naked in Test of Metal, i think i’m gonna reread it and pretend that he has a huge boner all the time
So fun fact, to make a point to a friend, I once set out to annotate every time Tezzeret was naked in Test of Metal. I had to stop after only making it to page 50 out of 354 because it was already WAY TOO MANY TIMES.
One pink book mark for every naked artificer ass in 50 pages out of 354. Really now.
Tezzeret as Aikuro Mikisugi
(with a big dumb metal arm)
Infinite Consortium as Nudist Beach
Give me a few minutes